Couples Therapy Melbourne
As a Couples’ therapists in Melbourne, we seek to work with you as a couple and individuals to improve your relationship. Seeing someone for help shows dedication in itself and a happy resolution is the aim of a relationship counsellor. Melbourne couples get the opportunity to talk openly in a safe environment to resolve underlying issues. Sometimes this involves working out together what has gone wrong, checking that both parties are committed to the relationship, and then teaching skills and tools to improve your relationship. The main aim is to heal past hurts, and focus on improving closeness and connection in the present/future.
On the odd occasion, separation may be the only option. In this case, we work on getting you both through the break-up, minimising emotional harm to one another, processing painful emotions (e.g., grief, loss, anger, sadness, and stress), and work together on issues like how to tell the children about what’s happening and why.
As relationship therapists, our job is to be more than a mediator. It is to take you through a process. To make sure we’re heading in the right direction we track our progress as we go. Couples counselling can take between 3 sessions and 16 sessions, depending on lots of factors (e.g., how long the problem have been there for, if you are in a major crisis, if there are complicating circumstances such as infidelity, personal mental illness, medical/physical conditions, etc).
We use an eclectic approach to relationship therapy in Melbourne depending on your couple’s style, including the following:
- Emotions Focussed Therapy (EFT): gets you to focus on the underlying core emotions, rather than the content of conflict. Helps for dealing with and healing past emotional hurts and resentments.
- John Gottman’s Evidenced-Based Principles for making happy relationships: gives you tools/skills for communication/conflict, improving intimacy and closeness.
- Overcoming sexual issues: such as lack of intimacy/desire, sexual pressure, incompatibility issues, problems with communication, etc. Sometimes individual therapy is needed at the same time.
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: identifying mutual values to give common future goals, and ultimately direction in your relationship.
- Schema Therapy: identifies each person’s unique life-traps (we all have them!), which usually stem from childhood, and helps the couple to understand why they act the way they do towards one another (e.g., pushing each other’s buttons!)
The important thing to remember is that, as the research shows, the kind of treatment used is not as important as the relationship between you the couple and the couples’ counsellor in Melbourne. Considering relationship counselling in Melbourne is the first step towards a happier and healthier life. Please contact us for more information on sessions.